We all look back at past experiences and wish we would have done things differently. Hinds Sight is 20/20. . .
Gun accidents don’t always give us that luxury. Sometimes there aren’t any second chances. This is not a lesson you want to learn the hard way. Trust me. I know. I have gone over and over in my mind if just one thing would have been different the day my three-year-old son picked up a loaded gun that was left momentarily on a nightstand. Nothing ever prepared me for finding him in a puddle of blood with a gunshot wound. Looking back there are so many things I would do differently. I wish I had considered the possibility of one of my kids having a gun accident. I wish I wouldn’t have been arrogant and assumed he knew better. I wish I wouldn’t have underestimated the strength in those little tiny 3 year old fingers that were able to pull an 8 pound trigger. I wish I had been more responsible, more aware, less distracted . . . but nothing I do will bring my son back.
However, there is a lot I do differently now for my other children. I never underestimate them. I expect them to be kids – curious, daring, mischievous, little stinkers. I hope to raise responsible, obedient, well-trained children, but that is just it – they are all still in the training process. No gun in our house is loaded. NOT ONE. Not even the gun my husband physically wears. I talked to my kids about gun safety & gun related accidents. We don’t just say, “don’t touch” – they too have learned the most painful lesson on gun safety first hand – we tell them & constantly remind them (because they are kids – and forget). We treat all guns as if they are real & loaded. We never handle guns when we are preoccupied, in a hurry, or tired. We make sure our guns are in a gun safe.
It all boils down to moments. Split seconds that change your life forever. It isn’t the careless parents who intentionally put their kids in harms way – it is parents who love their kids and would do anything in their power to protect them. Good parents make bad decisions. Good parents make mistakes. None of us are perfect. But bad things happen to good people. We are good parents, we made a mistake that cost us our son’s life & although I believe he is dancing on streets of gold in Heaven – we have lived through hell on earth . . . and it could have all been prevented. Hinds sight is 20/20.
You don’t have to wait for hind’s sight. Let my hind’s sight be your foresight.